I’m still struggling with the fact that so many Christian women took a “woman’s night out” to go see Fifty Shades of Grey, a movie (based on the book) that shows abuse and sadomasochism as part of a normal relationship. Some people described that relationship as “a love affair.”
For those who have lived through abusive relationships—and not all survive—know abuse is not love. I work with the issue of Human Trafficking, especially sex trafficking, and within that, Domestic Minor Sex Trafficking. My daughter-in-law works with victims of rape, abuse and sexual violence. We’ve seen and heard the destruction of women and girls caught in these situations. By viewing and therefore supporting movies that show women “liking” or “desiring” abusive, sadistic behavior, women are adding to the lie that it is okay to abuse or enslave girls for some man’s “pleasure.”
We cry out against human trafficking, but wear tops so low and pants so tight that Godly men have trouble looking away. And then we go see “Shades of Grey.” Are we sending mixed messages? Definitely.
What do you think many men are thinking? And if they look at porn on the internet or watch Shades of Grey knowing that we watched it too, they could think we really do want to be treated sadistically. A lot of ‘johns”—men that buy sex from prostitutes thereby creating a culture for sex trafficked victims—say they just wanted to “act out” something they saw on the internet or in a movie. They find a either a “willing” prostitute or kidnap a fourteen year old walking home from the bus stop. We can blame them, but we cannot dismiss our own culpability along with it.