Today, I’ve invited quest blogger Vicki Tiede to write a post. Vicki is a Bible teacher, conference speaker, and the author of When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart. Take a minute to read the encouragement and wisdom she gives women when faced with the destructive force of pornography.
Only a woman married to a man who has been/is addicted to pornography can really understand what it’s like to walk that path. Only this woman can know how desperately you long to embrace the hope that God is able and willing to pluck you out of the slimy pit, remove the filth that’s clinging to our hearts and minds, and usher us to the next step of healing.
I wrote When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart because I know first hand what that type of betrayal feels like. I also know what the journey to healing in the arms of the Wonderful Counselor looks like.
There are four things I tell women when they first discover their husband’s struggle:
1. Your husband’s use of pornography is not about you.
2. Expect to be bombarded by a host of emotions.
3. Find safe support.
4. Accept the fact that it is not in your power to fix this for your husband. You are not responsible for your husband’s daily choices.
Pornography is ravaging homes – Christian homes. Fifty-six percent of all divorces involve one party obsessed with pornography.
I’m encouraged by the support groups that so many men have found as they seek accountability, but what about their wives? Just when the husband is feeling like the weight of the world has been lifted from his shoulders as his secret is brought into the light, the wife now has an albatross wrapped around her neck as she bears her husband’s secret. What does she do with the lies the enemy would have her believe in light of her husband’s choices. What does she do with the fact that she no longer trusts the man she married? She needs safe support.
That’s why I’m starting a 6-week ONLINE support and study group. We will work through my book together on Tuesday nights from 7:00-8:30 p.m. CST, August 20, 2013 – September 24, 2013.
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